Do You Focus On The Crack In The Cup?

Why do we focus on what is missing or wrong in life?

Is this a bad thing?     

Most people would say yes it is.

But that is not the reality of the situation; it is just a cracked coffee cup.

I will get to my point soon, but here me out first.

What happens if you do not mind filling your cup up half way and drinking from the side where there is no crack?

What if you have been drinking too much coffee and this is a great way to get you to only drink a half cup?

How about if it is a sentimental thing? My daughter gave me this cup on her first birthday and it says World’s Best Dad. She loves when I use the cup, there is no way I am throwing this cup away.

Only when I say to myself this coffee cup should not be this way a coffee cup without a crack would be better. Only when I add an adverse thought to myself does this become a conflict.

This is an example of how we might look at something, positive or negative.

And this applies to everything in our lives.

*Take a second to read this short Zen tale:

“There is an old farmer who has worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck”, they said sympathetically.

“Maybe,” the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.

“How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.

“Maybe,” replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.

“Maybe,” answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.

“Maybe,” said the farmer.

Do you see the point I am trying to make, nothing is a conflict in your life until, you make up your mind that it is.

Being diagnosed with Juvenile Macular Degeneration at age 9 along with 3 of my siblings was the beginning of my conflict, my cracked coffee cup. Maybe the crack would not have gone so deep if the Doctor told us there would be a pair of glasses that would fix the problem, but no he did not and by age 13 I was legally blind.

For years I focused on the problem and it got deeper and longer. Matter of fact I could not understand why my cup had to be the one with such a terrible crack in it.

Why Me? Why not Me?

Thankfully at age 21 I bought some crazy glue and fixed my crack. Well it certainly was not that easy, but it all started with waiving the white flag and asking for help. To this day I am amazed at what it took for me to get to that point and I do not want anyone to go through the years of suffering I did. Life today with legal blindness from my Macular Degeneration is not a curse it is an opportunity to be of service and share my success with those who are open to living a fulfilling life with the proper tools and training, it is possible.

See nothing is a conflict in your life until you make up your mind that it is. Yes there is a process that we all must go through until we can accept our adversity. This process can be fast or slow your choice. Thankfully today there is a lot of help and people that can show you the way.

The question is, do you want it? And are you willing to do the work?